A husband who hoped to find support on Reddit’s ‘Am I the asshole’ page after he confessed to secretly withdrawing thousands of dollars from a joint bank account with his wife to help pay for his wife’s wedding dress sister has been criticized online.
Reddit user u/No_YogurtCloset9610 shared his story with the group of 3.3 million people and asked them AITA (am I the hole**). In the post, upvoted 17,500 times since it was shared on Sunday, the user said he dipped into the 40,000 in savings after his sister asked for 5,000 for a wedding dress.
The user, who did not reveal the currency used, said: “She is [the wife] told me the money was for either an emergency or in case we were planning to buy our own house.
“She said in case I need money for an emergency, I can’t use it. I also have access to the account, but so far I haven’t used anything.”
The commenter said his sister asked for the money after claiming her card expired and stopped working about two months ago.
But, two months later, the sister continues to put off repaying the money she borrowed and the user admitted that he started feeling guilty and nervous in case the woman surrendered. realized that the money was missing.
User u/No_YogurtCloset9610 added: “My best friend says I’m being honest with her and should accept the consequences of my own actions for not telling my wife and telling her about the missing money . AITA? I feel very guilty for this and for trusting my sister.”
Reddit commenters were unimpressed with the user’s behavior and wondered if the sister really needed that much money.
One poster said in a response with 44,000 upvotes: “Your sister not being able to afford her wedding dress is not an emergency. You were scammed, her bank would have sent her a new card debit card at the beginning of the month it expires, don’t wait to send one after it expires.
“You’re not getting that money back. And you’re probably never going to get your wife’s trust back either. YTA [you’re the a**hole].”
Another commenter was equally blunt, adding, “YTA. You need to tell your wife and start repaying the amount you took immediately. You need to start asking your sister to repay you in small amounts if possible. And now you have to realize your sister is exhausted and you should never lend her money again.”
A third Reddit user said: “I just want to add that the longer it took for OP [original poster] tell me, the angrier I would be. After a certain point, it becomes a matter of honesty. OP, I’m really bored and I’m not even your wife. You’re screwed, man. You must come clean as soon as possible. YTA.”
According to a 2020 American Wedding Study commissioned by Brides.com, a website that supports wedding planners and brides-to-be, thousands are spent on wedding dresses. The study claimed that the average amount brides-to-be were willing to spend on a wedding dress in the United States was $2,439.